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[0:01] I'm sure you would have noticed
[0:04] that when we sit
[0:06] down even for a few few minutes to
[0:09] listen to Kian to do n
[0:12] name or to sit and do Nam
[0:16] siman that it doesn't take very long for
[0:18] the mind to get
[0:22] distracted and one of the most
[0:26] common
[0:28] complaints feedbacks
[0:31] and frustrations that we
[0:33] feel
[0:38] is and because we
[0:41] have found Namsan difficult in the past
[0:45] because we find our mind to be so
[0:49] distracting sometimes we may find that
[0:51] it's offputting that we don't feel like
[0:54] doing that
[0:57] again
[0:59] but it isn't that when you sit down and
[1:02] do nams and your mind doesn't stay
[1:06] still it's that when you sit down and do
[1:08] Nam siman you first come to realize how
[1:12] busy your mind always
[1:16] is so today I'd like to share with you
[1:20] some of my personal thoughts based on
[1:24] whatever understanding Guru has allowed
[1:26] me to have on what can we do to help
[1:31] ourselves and what are we trying to do
[1:32] with
[1:36] nams when we sit and do nams on the
[1:39] first difficulty we find is that our
[1:41] mind seems to be talking very loud our
[1:44] mind seems to go all over the
[1:46] place the second destruction the SE the
[1:50] second difficulty that we find is when
[1:53] we're doing Namsan we're not told or
[1:56] we're not sure what should we be
[1:59] focusing on
[2:00] what are we supposed to be doing with
[2:02] our
[2:03] minds what are we looking
[2:07] for when we're sitting in nsim what are
[2:09] we trying to
[2:11] achieve so it's only when we sit and do
[2:14] V on these things can it help when we
[2:17] actually sit down and do the Nam Sim and
[2:19] then we have a little bit of
[2:21] understanding as to how we can try and
[2:22] achieve
[2:24] this we also
[2:26] find that as well as being distracted by
[2:29] thoughts
[2:31] we're also distracted by our body itself
[2:34] you may notice that when you sit down to
[2:36] do nams you start suddenly start
[2:39] becoming aware of different parts of
[2:40] your body maybe different parts of your
[2:43] body will feel uncomfortable maybe you
[2:46] feel a itch somewhere so all of a sudden
[2:49] your body seems like it's woken up and
[2:51] it's trying to get your
[2:56] attention I want you just to compare
[3:01] this with another time in your life when
[3:04] you don't feel this distracted but
[3:06] you're still sitting down for a couple
[3:08] of
[3:09] hours when we sit and do Nam siman it
[3:13] doesn't even take one or two minutes and
[3:14] our mind starts to convince us that this
[3:16] is too difficult if you sit down to
[3:20] watch TV or watch a movie have you
[3:24] notice that your mind is able to stay
[3:27] focused you don't get distracted you
[3:30] don't think about your
[3:32] body and I'm not interested in blaming
[3:34] anyone I'm not trying to make you feel
[3:35] any better or worse it's about trying to
[3:38] understand why does my mind focus on
[3:40] this but my mind seems to get very bored
[3:43] very
[3:44] quickly I don't know about you but
[3:48] sometimes you may have noticed that if
[3:50] you're sitting and doing part or if
[3:52] you're listening to gurbani within about
[3:55] 3 or 4 minutes you start yawning quite a
[3:58] lot what what is your mind doing your
[4:01] mind is trying to shut down I certainly
[4:04] had those
[4:05] experiences at school and at University
[4:07] when the teacher started talking you
[4:10] start feeling really sleepy and we see
[4:12] the same thing when we sit down to
[4:14] listen to gbani or part we don't see the
[4:17] same thing when we're listening to music
[4:19] or when we're watching TV so we have to
[4:21] understand what is our mind attracted by
[4:25] and what is our mind distracted
[4:28] by let's think of another example
[4:30] example if you go out into nature maybe
[4:34] you go into some beautiful countryside
[4:36] if you come across a mountain or a
[4:41] lake or maybe if you're looking up at
[4:43] the stars on a clear night have you
[4:47] noticed your mind can stay still you can
[4:51] just watch the
[4:53] Stars what's
[4:55] happening there are certain things that
[4:57] captivates the
[4:58] mind but but you have already noticed in
[5:01] yourself that there are certain times
[5:03] when the mind can be completely silent
[5:06] why is it that you can look at
[5:08] Countryside nature why is it that you
[5:10] can look at the stars and you can just
[5:11] keep looking you don't have a thought in
[5:14] your mind you don't compare the Stars to
[5:17] anything else you just are able to
[5:20] look so by looking at these two or three
[5:23] examples we see that the Mind needs
[5:26] something the Mind needs something to
[5:29] hold on to
[5:30] to and for this the guru has given us
[5:35] man the guru has given us Shabad the
[5:38] guru has given us something using
[5:41] sound one of the common questions that I
[5:44] get asked is am I allowed to think of a
[5:47] photo of the guru sometimes if we're
[5:50] doing namson we might have an image of
[5:52] gurun nanak but the guru's instruction
[5:55] is to listen to the sound of the
[5:57] shabbath itself that's why we using
[5:59] sound sound what is man what is nam it's
[6:02] the use of sound so youran has to be
[6:06] listening to the sound of your own
[6:09] voice now what is Kiran why was Kiran
[6:12] written in rags Rags is also a very
[6:16] sophisticated
[6:18] sound so Guru says that if you want to
[6:21] understand this Bary if you want to
[6:23] understand the words understand it
[6:25] through rugs so Guru has specifically
[6:28] given us the tech te of sound so when
[6:31] we're sitting and doing nams we must be
[6:34] putting Ouran on the sound of our own
[6:39] voice but the guru has also given us
[6:42] Words which are written in the common
[6:46] language so as well as sound Guru has
[6:50] also given us shabs so for example the
[6:52] guru hasn't just given you a sound like
[6:55] if I just play a piece of music that's
[6:57] not gurmat meditation because that's
[7:00] just listening to a sound Guru has given
[7:02] us Shabad Shabad means a word so sound
[7:06] and word so when we take a word like
[7:10] vuru
[7:13] orar we must listen to the sound put our
[7:16] Awareness on the sound but also on the
[7:19] meaning so when we're saying
[7:23] vuru we need to be thinking about the
[7:26] emotion what is it feel to say vah
[7:30] we have to try and evoke that EV emotion
[7:33] we have to bring that experience of V
[7:39] wow
[7:41] or again
[7:45] look that's a sound that's using sound
[7:50] for us to focus our awareness and by
[7:53] saying we are understanding the wisdom
[7:56] that everything is part of that one we
[7:59] can can call it Universal sound or
[8:01] Universal vibration so Nam is
[8:05] specifically the use of sound and the
[8:09] wisdom the understanding of what the
[8:11] word actually
[8:18] means so what are we trying to do with n
[8:21] this is a little bit about what the
[8:22] distractions are why it feels
[8:25] difficult but what are we actually
[8:27] trying to achieve
[8:31] as I've understood
[8:33] it gurbani wants us to use the technique
[8:38] of Nam siman to go within
[8:42] ourselves most of the time when we do
[8:45] Nam Simon we are looking outwards and if
[8:49] you notice when you sit still your mind
[8:53] is always trying to think about
[8:55] something external it's always got some
[8:58] external thing going on on some
[9:01] external it could be something to do
[9:03] with your house something to do with
[9:05] your work your own
[9:08] responsibilities it's always thinking
[9:10] about something external through Shabad
[9:13] we're trying to go
[9:15] internal and what we make the mistake of
[9:18] doing because the mind is always looking
[9:20] outwards in nams one of the mistakes
[9:22] that we do is we think about God like
[9:25] it's
[9:26] outwards that God is outside because
[9:29] everything else that our mind does is
[9:31] looks outside so it thinks in nams that
[9:33] God is also
[9:35] outside and so what we end up doing with
[9:37] namson is we create an idea that God is
[9:40] outside and we are calling God what
[9:43] namson has become is God
[9:46] calling the god that we think is outside
[9:49] is we're trying to call that God so Nam
[9:53] Sim is not God calling because the god
[9:55] that you're calling isn't
[9:57] outside so Nam s is the technique of
[10:00] going within yourself and rather than it
[10:03] being God calling it is God
[10:13] realizing recognize that which is within
[10:16] you Mo is that which is the very base of
[10:20] you the very nature of what you
[10:25] are so this is what gurmat is trying to
[10:28] do with the Nam
[10:30] we've talked about what are we trying to
[10:31] focus on we're focusing on the
[10:33] sound we're trying to understand the
[10:36] meaning of it V Guru we're trying to
[10:38] actually think about that meaning not
[10:40] that we're trying to dissect the meaning
[10:42] we're not trying to understand what is
[10:44] God at this point we're just trying to
[10:46] evoke the feeling of vah Guru
[10:50] or God is everywhere God is everywhere
[10:53] another shab remember gbani gives you
[10:56] lots of mans yeah we I've always
[10:59] recommended that you should do the man
[11:03] that works for you gbani gives us lots
[11:05] of man is another
[11:08] man har har that's another man gbani
[11:11] uses har quite a lot as well so I always
[11:15] recommend try one meditation with one
[11:19] man and then while you're learning try a
[11:23] different man as
[11:25] well the way I like to explain this is
[11:29] that
[11:32] if I was a swimming teacher and I had to
[11:35] teach you swimming when you get into the
[11:38] swimming pool for the first time you
[11:40] don't expect to swim to the other side
[11:43] on your first
[11:45] lesson so in the same way the first time
[11:48] you're doing Namsan or in the early
[11:50] stages of Namsan don't expect to go all
[11:52] the
[11:53] way because we're
[11:55] learning secondly if I'm a swimming
[11:58] teacher I will will teach you lots of
[12:01] different ways to swim the forward
[12:03] stroke the back stroke I'll show you
[12:05] different ways to move your arms
[12:07] different ways to move your legs I won't
[12:09] do them all at the same time the first
[12:11] lesson you'll learn one one technique
[12:14] the next lesson you'll learn a different
[12:15] technique this is what different mons
[12:17] does try different ones so what you want
[12:21] to do is you want to get to the point
[12:23] where you are comfortable with lots of
[12:25] different techniques so one day when I
[12:28] tell you to go into the swimming pool
[12:29] and I just tell you go to the other side
[12:33] what you will do is you will pick the
[12:34] one that is most comfortable to you the
[12:37] one that works for you you've tried all
[12:38] the different ones but you found the one
[12:41] that's easiest for you that's the one
[12:43] that gets you there the
[12:45] fastest so in the same way I encourage
[12:48] try different mans try doing them out
[12:51] loud try doing them quietly there's
[12:53] benefit in all of these things the
[12:55] recommendation is certainly when you're
[12:57] starting to do Nam you you start out
[13:00] loud because if we're trying to focus on
[13:02] the meaning of the sound and the actual
[13:04] sound of the voice then it's easier when
[13:07] you're doing it out loud as you get
[13:09] better at it then you can do nams
[13:13] quietly so we have to be comfortable
[13:17] with the fact that this is going to take
[13:19] some time don't expect that just because
[13:23] the first time you sit down and
[13:26] do my mind is all over the place that
[13:28] means
[13:29] namson works for everyone else but it
[13:31] doesn't work for me that's what we think
[13:35] somebody else may be able to do namson
[13:37] but it doesn't work for my mind so I'm
[13:39] just not going to try anymore no in the
[13:42] same way just as you can't swim the
[13:43] first time you get into the pool in the
[13:45] same way don't expect to go very far
[13:48] reduce your
[13:51] expectations
[13:53] now we also have to understand that if
[13:57] it is an internal Journey it means that
[14:00] there's something inside that we have to
[14:02] look
[14:04] for what are we looking for inside
[14:07] remember the mind is always looking
[14:10] outside but the technique of nams is to
[14:12] go
[14:15] inside gurbani specifically talks about
[14:17] this as though you're going on a
[14:21] yatra in the guru's times and even now
[14:25] there is this idea that if you want to
[14:27] get spiritual blessings you have to go
[14:29] to holy places it's called and by going
[14:33] to holy places and especially swimming
[14:35] in those holy pools that you will get
[14:38] some blessing gurun nanak d g says I
[14:41] also go to holy places I also go bathe
[14:45] in holy Rivers but my is
[14:52] internal n Nam means I don't have to get
[14:57] up and go somewhere I have to get up up
[14:59] and go inside I do go and bathe but I
[15:02] bathe in the of
[15:09] N I use the wisdom of the guru the
[15:13] wisdom of the Shabad remember what we
[15:14] talk about trying to understand what the
[15:16] word is and Anan I try and understand
[15:21] that which is within me internal
[15:28] wisdom
[15:29] the real the guru is saying is not to go
[15:32] to some holy places visit holy temples
[15:36] holy garas bathe in holy Rivers the real
[15:39] the is to go and understand that which
[15:41] is sacred within you there is something
[15:44] holy inside you but the technique we use
[15:47] is nam and Shabad bichar to get internal
[15:51] wisdom to find something that is inside
[15:55] you so what are some of the benefits of
[15:58] doing namson
[16:02] well the first difficulty that I talked
[16:05] about that the mind seems too loud let's
[16:07] look about look let's look at that as a
[16:10] benefit the benefit of that is that we
[16:13] start to realize that the mind is
[16:16] working independently of
[16:18] me normally we say these are my thoughts
[16:22] but when you sit down in nams even if
[16:24] you sit down for one minute quietly
[16:26] before you've even started namson the
[16:29] thoughts are talking
[16:30] away and you want to keep them quiet
[16:34] what that means is that you are not
[16:35] generating those thoughts the thoughts
[16:37] just seem to be coming on their own
[16:39] you're not the one making those thoughts
[16:41] happen so the first benefit that you see
[16:44] by seeing your noisy mind is you realize
[16:47] the mind is different I am something
[16:50] different I can look at the
[16:53] mind it's not a thought that's looking
[16:56] at the mind I am looking at the mind so
[16:59] the first thing that you learn with nams
[17:02] is that you can actually detach yourself
[17:04] from the Mind normally when the Mind
[17:07] gives you a thought you say yes that's
[17:10] my thought and whatever thought the Mind
[17:12] gives
[17:13] you you just jump on that
[17:17] thought there's a very simple analogy to
[17:21] understand the mind and the
[17:25] thoughts if you had to go to a different
[17:29] Town that's far away and you decided to
[17:31] take the train what do you do you go to
[17:34] the train station do you jump on the
[17:38] first train that
[17:40] arrives or do you wait for the train
[17:42] that's going to the town that you want
[17:44] to go
[17:45] to you don't just jump on the first
[17:47] train that
[17:49] arrives you stay on the
[17:52] platform on the train station until the
[17:56] correct train comes along
[17:59] and try to think about your mind in the
[18:01] same
[18:02] way think about Namsan as staying on the
[18:06] platform and thoughts like lots of
[18:10] trains that are coming and going all the
[18:12] time through
[18:14] practice you will learn to stay within
[18:18] yourself and not jump on every single
[18:20] thought but because we haven't got that
[18:23] practice most of the time as soon as a
[18:25] thought comes into our mind we jump on
[18:27] that thought we take it
[18:30] and what happens thoughts move so
[18:31] quickly that within a few seconds your
[18:34] thoughts have gone somewhere
[18:36] else so you may sit there in your
[18:41] thoughts and a sit there on the platform
[18:46] of your own mind the train station and a
[18:48] thought comes along that
[18:50] says when I go home I need to do
[18:53] this yeah that's a thought that can come
[18:55] into your mind I need to make sure that
[18:58] I do the the washing or I need to make
[19:00] sure that I've cleaned the dishes or the
[19:03] cooking is done for tomorrow a thought
[19:06] comes what we do is we jump on that
[19:09] thought as soon as we jump on that
[19:11] thought we say oh I also need to make
[19:13] sure I do
[19:14] this and last time my friend came to my
[19:18] house and I forgot to do it and my
[19:20] friend who came to my my house last time
[19:22] they borrowed some money from me and
[19:24] they haven't paid me that money back and
[19:27] in fact the last time my friend did that
[19:28] is when we were on holiday oh I must
[19:30] remember to book the next holiday but
[19:32] when we went on that holiday last
[19:35] time I didn't enjoy it so I have to go
[19:37] somewhere else and that person and that
[19:40] Holiday Hotel was very rude to me I
[19:42] can't believe what they said have you
[19:44] seen what's happened you had one thought
[19:48] within about 5 or 10 seconds you're on
[19:51] holiday
[19:52] somewhere what's happened you jumped on
[19:55] the train and the train went you have no
[19:57] control where that train is going it's
[19:59] just
[20:00] going that's because without
[20:03] acknowledging it you jumped on the train
[20:05] that is our natural response to jump on
[20:07] the train Nam Sim meditation is the
[20:10] practice to learn I don't have to jump
[20:12] on those thoughts so the first benefit
[20:14] and it's a benefit that your noise your
[20:17] noisy mind becomes clear to you it's not
[20:20] a bad thing it's a good thing you
[20:21] realize okay this is what the thought
[20:24] does but in the first time you will keep
[20:28] jumping on those thoughts so when you
[20:30] keep jumping on those
[20:33] thoughts you will very quickly even if
[20:36] you're doing Nam even if your voice is
[20:38] saying a your inner voice is is on
[20:42] holiday your inner voice is doing
[20:44] something
[20:45] else so the benefit of that is that you
[20:48] have a mon and what happens is every now
[20:51] and then your awareness comes back and
[20:53] you say oh I was supposed to be doing
[20:54] arm Simon so you jump off that train and
[20:57] you jump back on onto the platform you
[21:00] stay still and the Nam Simon is what
[21:03] reminds
[21:04] you Nam Simon is constantly reminding
[21:07] you that you weren't meant to be on this
[21:10] train you're on the wrong train come
[21:12] back so as soon as you realize that I'm
[21:16] thinking about something I'm supposed to
[21:17] be doing nsim allow that thought to go
[21:20] away jump off that thought you let that
[21:23] thought go away and you realize you're
[21:25] back on the train station of me you're
[21:28] the train station your awareness is the
[21:30] train
[21:32] station jump off that and stay on the
[21:36] train station by staying on N you bring
[21:39] your awareness back to n so that even if
[21:41] more thoughts come along you say nope
[21:43] I'm not going on that thought staying on
[21:46] the train station is helped by the fact
[21:48] that you keep your awareness on the man
[21:51] itself keeping your awareness on the man
[21:54] focusing on the man means that you're
[21:57] focusing on the train station
[21:59] not allowing every other thought to come
[22:05] along
[22:07] meditation is something that has been
[22:10] not understood by the modern world have
[22:13] you seen in the modern world everybody
[22:15] talks about meditation everyone says
[22:16] yeah I like to do meditation I like to
[22:18] do yoga I like to do
[22:20] mindfulness but what we're seeing now is
[22:23] those things are being done without
[22:27] wisdom so everybody says they do
[22:29] meditation but you want to talk about
[22:31] the real deeper meaning of what
[22:33] meditation is trying to do for you they
[22:34] say no no no I'm just doing meditation
[22:36] to relax meditation helps with my stress
[22:40] yoga helps with my stress but yoga
[22:43] mindfulness and meditation come from a
[22:46] wisdom so you can't practice them
[22:48] without learning the wisdom as well you
[22:51] have to learn the wisdom what is it
[22:52] trying to
[22:55] do so meditation yoga mindfulness are
[23:00] great if they are combined with the shab
[23:04] with the understanding of what they're
[23:06] trying to do if you think meditation is
[23:08] just about being stressfree yes that's
[23:12] one of the benefits of of doing any
[23:15] meditation but it's not the purpose of
[23:17] the meditation the meditation isn't just
[23:19] for Stress Management it's good for
[23:22] Stress Management but that's not what
[23:24] it's for it's to connect you with the
[23:26] Oneness but most people are not willing
[23:28] to go that far they don't want to
[23:30] connect with any Oneness they want to
[23:32] stay within them
[23:35] themselves so rather than just reduce
[23:38] stress what real Simon is trying to do
[23:41] is reduced
[23:44] self reduced sense of self we don't feel
[23:48] so much of May anymore the reason we
[23:52] feel a lot of may all the time is
[23:54] because in reality the mind is doing
[23:58] Simon all the
[24:00] time but it's not doing Nam Sim all the
[24:03] time it's doing me Sim all the
[24:06] time what happens the first thing when
[24:08] you wake up in the morning straight away
[24:10] when you wake up in the morning all the
[24:13] May thoughts start
[24:16] coming I need to do this I need to do
[24:18] that does that happen first thing as
[24:21] soon as you wake up in the
[24:23] morning so your thoughts keep telling
[24:26] you you need to do this you need to do
[24:27] this you need to do this in fact the
[24:29] mind is quite useful like that the
[24:32] purpose of the mind is to remind you of
[24:36] things I call the mind a personal
[24:39] assistant it's very useful it comes and
[24:41] it tells you these are all the things
[24:43] that you need to do straight away and
[24:45] not only does it tell you what you need
[24:47] to do it tells you in priority order it
[24:50] tells you first you need to do this you
[24:51] got some other stuff to do but this is
[24:53] more important so as an assistant it's
[24:55] really useful but what's happened is we
[24:58] don't let the mind be an assistant we've
[25:00] made the mind the
[25:02] master we're supposed to be the boss and
[25:04] the mind is supposed to be the personal
[25:06] assistant the secretary just telling you
[25:08] what to do but we've become the opposite
[25:10] way we wake up in the morning the mind
[25:13] tells us what to do and we listen to the
[25:16] mind like it's the boss and we say yes
[25:19] boss whatever you say I have to do
[25:22] it the purpose of Nam siman is to
[25:25] reshift that balance again so the Mind
[25:29] becomes our servant we have to become
[25:33] the master of the Mind man we have to
[25:36] win over the Mind mind can't be the boss
[25:39] if mind is the boss then it's constantly
[25:42] going to be shouting at you this kind of
[25:43] boss is always shouting in you you know
[25:45] you sometimes you get those kind of
[25:47] managers at work they're always telling
[25:48] you
[25:51] off and this kind of mind is always
[25:53] giving you work to do never gives you a
[25:57] break so do you want this kind of Boss
[26:00] do you want to be the servant of this
[26:02] mind because this mind is the thing that
[26:05] has also given you all the do in your
[26:07] life as soon as somebody says something
[26:10] bad to you even if you don't feel very
[26:13] bad the mind says oh I can't believe
[26:15] what that person said to
[26:16] me it's not you saying it it's your mind
[26:19] saying it oh can you believe what that
[26:21] person said I can't believe that's not
[26:23] the first time they've said that
[26:26] either so your mind is creating your do
[26:30] so then the mind has told you something
[26:33] look at what that person said or did and
[26:35] your body is having a emotional response
[26:38] your body is now starting to feel
[26:40] emotional pain because the mind has
[26:42] given you an instruction what if the
[26:44] Mind said look at what that person did
[26:47] but within you you say I don't need to
[26:49] listen to that mind because if I listen
[26:51] to you too much I'm going to start
[26:53] stressing I'm going to start feeling the
[26:56] emotion of sadness of stress of anxiety
[27:00] of fear so your dok is coming from the
[27:04] mind but with Nam Sim the idea
[27:10] is get rid of the DU why because we're
[27:14] controlling the thing that gives us the
[27:16] do the
[27:18] mind so these are one of the
[27:21] benefits Nam is not just to reduce
[27:24] stress it's to reduce
[27:27] May because the mind is always saying me
[27:30] it's doing me Sim all the time and by
[27:33] doing n we're replacing the me
[27:39] with what we're doing is we're replacing
[27:42] the
[27:43] idea that may is the most important
[27:46] thing in the mind Mind Is Telling You
[27:49] don't listen to anyone else may is the
[27:52] most important
[27:54] thing but with n with shab
[27:59] with with you you as our M we are
[28:03] realizing that me isn't the most
[28:05] important thing this Oneness that is
[28:08] inside and outside that is the most
[28:10] important thing in
[28:11] life so n is reprogramming the
[28:18] mind if you think about
[28:21] mind as software this software has got a
[28:25] virus and the virus is called
[28:28] may I am that's the virus it's polluting
[28:31] our mind it's polluting our
[28:33] body Shabad is the
[28:36] antivirus and the way the antivirus
[28:38] works is it deletes the old programming
[28:41] and it puts new programming we get rid
[28:44] of the me which is the man we delete
[28:48] that thinking and we replace it with the
[28:50] new software the new programming gurmat
[28:53] the guru's thinking and gurmat says may
[28:56] is not the most important thing
[28:58] is the most important thing Vu is the
[29:01] most important thing so that's why Nam
[29:04] is to
[29:06] constantly run in the
[29:08] background because instead of saying me
[29:11] me me all the time we're now
[29:12] reprogramming our
[29:14] [Music]
[29:15] mind so this is some of the things that
[29:18] we're trying to do with
[29:22] nams so we're trying to reduce the sense
[29:25] of self how does n help us reduce the
[29:28] sense of
[29:31] self
[29:32] Nam as I've understood it has two real
[29:38] stages that we use
[29:41] Shabad as not a way of getting something
[29:45] but as a way of
[29:48] praising the purpose of Shabad of n the
[29:52] purpose of saying vah is with praising
[29:55] vuru that's why the the most amazing man
[29:59] that gurun nanak devv g has come to this
[30:01] world with is
[30:04] wow when I'm teaching this to my
[30:06] children I'm saying gurun nanak d g gave
[30:08] us something called vah vuru and in
[30:11] English I explained to my children
[30:14] that's called wow
[30:15] Simon everything that we're doing
[30:19] vah we don't just have to do this nams
[30:22] and sitting down everything that we look
[30:24] around us vah look at the Sun wow look
[30:29] at the sky wow look at the birds wow
[30:33] look at nature wow look at Humanity wow
[30:37] look at what humans have been able to
[30:39] create V it's not because we're great
[30:42] we're not saying wow to the tree or to
[30:45] the birds or to the sky we're saying vah
[30:47] to the one behind it the one that's
[30:49] created all of this the energy behind
[30:52] everything the power the shy behind
[30:55] everything the kudr behind it
[30:59] so I explained to my children that by
[31:01] doing vah we're doing wow wow wow all
[31:04] the time and it's called wow simmeron
[31:07] and one of the things that we should be
[31:08] most Amazed by is this wow what is
[31:15] this I explained to my children that no
[31:19] toy that you have
[31:21] moves without you doing something or
[31:24] there some being some electricity or
[31:26] battery doing something
[31:29] if you have a toy it doesn't move on its
[31:31] own if you have a robot all the lights
[31:34] don't come on on its own all the arms
[31:36] and legs don't start moving on its own
[31:38] it has to have an energy a battery
[31:40] inside it what is this
[31:43] robot it seems to move without a
[31:47] battery but the truth is there is an
[31:49] energy inside us and that energy is Life
[31:53] Energy where does that life energy come
[31:55] from it's pretty amazing if you think
[31:56] about it
[31:59] what is the difference between you and a
[32:02] dead dead
[32:04] body same arm same legs same head same
[32:09] internal organs Eyes Ears Nose heart
[32:11] lungs what's the difference the
[32:14] difference between you and a dead body
[32:17] is they are switched off and you are
[32:19] switched on you're switched on right now
[32:22] there's something inside you that's
[32:23] switched on what is it that is switched
[32:26] on what is that electricity inside us
[32:30] that is The Wonder of
[32:33] wuru we are switched on but we can't
[32:36] seem to find what is the thing that
[32:38] switches us on that is the life energy
[32:41] that has been infused into
[32:44] us where does that life energy come from
[32:47] isn't that something amazing isn't that
[32:49] something worth saying wow whyu that's
[32:52] pretty amazing and you're right here
[32:55] you're keeping me alive you're keeping
[32:56] me going
[32:58] so when I'm doing nams I'm trying
[33:00] personally not to look outside I'm just
[33:02] amazed by what is inside let alone
[33:05] what's outside and when you look outside
[33:08] look at all the galaxies and the
[33:10] billions of stars and the moons I'm sure
[33:12] you must have seen these videos on
[33:14] Facebook and YouTube where they show a
[33:17] person and then they zoom out and then
[33:19] they show a country and then they zoom
[33:21] out and then they show the planet and
[33:23] then the moon and then the solar system
[33:26] and then the Sun and then all the other
[33:28] solar systems and then all of that's
[33:30] just in one Galaxy it zooms out and then
[33:32] there's billions of galaxies and then
[33:34] you think
[33:36] wow so guruji has given us this
[33:39] technique already vah when we're doing
[33:42] vah Guru we're evoking the emotion of
[33:45] wow every moment is amazing and S the
[33:49] biggest blessing is every time you take
[33:52] a breath
[33:54] in even breath you you're
[33:59] breathing so breath is another important
[34:03] element that the guru has told us
[34:07] about
[34:08] [Music]
[34:11] sind previously they used to be the
[34:14] technique that people just used to sit
[34:16] in silence or they used to just focus on
[34:19] a picture or they used to focus on their
[34:23] breath the guru was aware of all these
[34:26] different techniques but the Guru says
[34:28] sitting in silence doesn't silence the
[34:33] mind and the guru looked at the breath
[34:36] and said rather than just focusing on
[34:38] the breath take the breath and put
[34:40] Shabad on top of it put a man on top of
[34:42] it put n on top of
[34:44] it that's when it's going to be really
[34:47] effective for
[34:49] you
[34:53] simind the worries of the Mind start to
[34:57] to
[35:00] disappear why do the worries of the Mind
[35:02] start to disappear because your focus is
[35:04] not now on the thoughts of the mind your
[35:06] focus is on
[35:09] goind so we have something else to bring
[35:12] our awareness
[35:14] to so Nam is to use V praise and we can
[35:20] even do any man that works for you
[35:24] sometimes I encourage that if your mind
[35:26] one thing find your mind gets bored very
[35:29] easily even if you pick one mon your
[35:31] mind will get bored very easily that's
[35:33] why I say the next day try a different
[35:38] man and if just doing a single word
[35:42] starts to get boring because your mind
[35:44] gets used to things very easily then
[35:46] take a tu from
[35:49] gbani you can take any line from gurbani
[35:52] and you can just repeat that
[35:54] line one thing I've enjoyed using is
[35:58] very useful when you're walking around
[36:01] try once for 24 hours to just
[36:06] say let that be your
[36:09] n and you will notice that even as when
[36:12] you're driving and somebody drives in
[36:14] front of you and cuts you off in traffic
[36:17] and normally your mind will say get
[36:19] angry at that person but a man or a shab
[36:24] like will say I don't need to listen to
[36:26] you mind I don't need your reaction to
[36:30] be my first
[36:32] reaction
[36:34] remember your response to the world is
[36:38] your
[36:41] responsibility we like to think that if
[36:44] somebody has made us feel upset it's
[36:46] their responsibility they at fault but
[36:50] you can't control what they do you
[36:53] cannot control what all the other
[36:54] drivers are doing you can't control what
[36:56] the whole world world is doing we can't
[36:58] control the
[37:00] weather we can't control the external
[37:03] and normally we can't control the
[37:05] internal our response we can't control
[37:07] it whatever our first response is that
[37:09] the the master the Mind whatever that
[37:12] tells us we listen to it we say yes
[37:14] that's the right
[37:15] response but as you do more you realize
[37:18] that might not be the right response so
[37:20] you detach yourself from the mind and
[37:22] you think what is the right response so
[37:25] remember your response
[37:27] if somebody is agitating you you cannot
[37:29] control them but you can control your
[37:32] response your response is your
[37:35] responsibility you can choose so you
[37:38] can't choose that the other person said
[37:40] something mean to you but you can choose
[37:42] and take responsibility for the fact
[37:44] that you got angry or you got upset
[37:46] that's your
[37:48] choice and you only know that when you
[37:50] start doing nams and meditation you can
[37:53] start realizing the mind has a first
[37:55] response that doesn't have to to be my
[37:57] first
[37:59] response so Nam uses praise as a way to
[38:05] sayi and your first response should be
[38:08] this is wuru as well this is wuru this
[38:12] is wuru this is wuru and this is wuru
[38:15] then you won't be able to say I am angry
[38:17] at
[38:18] you you'll say wuru has said something
[38:21] to Wahu and Wahu is okay with
[38:25] it sometimes you might even say
[38:29] wuru is okay with it but the mind is
[38:33] agitated because you've created a
[38:38] distinction so we use praise so the
[38:42] first I said Nam has two steps the first
[38:45] step of Nam Simon a nam is n praise we
[38:50] look at jab it says nam nam nam all the
[38:53] time Nam means I praise you I bow down
[38:57] to you that's the first bit of Nam siman
[38:59] that everything that you say everything
[39:01] that you see you say I bow down to you I
[39:04] bow down to you I bow down to you
[39:06] because you are wuru but don't make a
[39:09] duality that wuru is outside and not
[39:11] inside bow the Bowing should also be
[39:15] internal when the Bowing goes internal
[39:19] Nam goes to the second phase where
[39:21] everything becomes you you wuru Wahu
[39:24] wuru
[39:25] wuru and this comes vuru Nam has gone
[39:28] into the second stage Nam has gone from
[39:31] Nam to
[39:33] [Music]
[39:34] n Nam starts with Nam praise and ends
[39:39] with Nam there is no me there is only
[39:50] you tells us this process of Nam by
[39:53] doing I became that
[39:58] nothing was left of
[40:04] me when the the barrier the curtain
[40:08] between me and everything else was
[40:11] destroyed then everywhere I saw I saw
[40:14] you including me so it's not then I can
[40:18] see God it is God can see
[40:22] God wuru is looking at wuru there is no
[40:25] me left that is the end end of Namsan
[40:29] that is where Namsan is the destination
[40:31] of nams Namsan is the
[40:35] technique and Nam Sim is the destination
[40:38] Nam is the destination as
[40:41] well so Nam starts with Namo praise and
[40:46] it ends with n no
[40:49] me how do we do this as I start wrapping
[40:53] up towards the end of this talk now how
[40:55] do we do this we do this without any
[41:00] desires if you're doing Nam Sim with
[41:02] some desire even the desire I want to
[41:06] find God you will not find
[41:10] God if you're saying I'm doing nams come
[41:14] on God remember I said that normally we
[41:16] do nams as God calling come on wuru come
[41:19] on wuru come on wuru that's what we do
[41:22] with
[41:25] nams if if you're saying I'm waiting for
[41:28] you I'm waiting for you I'm waiting for
[41:29] you whose Simon are you really doing if
[41:32] you're saying I'm waiting for God I am
[41:34] waiting for God I am waiting for God
[41:36] then what you're really saying is I am I
[41:38] am I am the May hasn't
[41:42] gone and as long as there is a may God
[41:45] is not
[41:48] outside God is not waiting to come from
[41:50] the outside into you God is inside
[41:54] waiting to come
[41:55] out God is already
[42:03] here God is not far away Guru is saying
[42:07] but why don't we know
[42:19] it when my mind began to learn and
[42:23] accept the satgur bachan the words of
[42:25] the guru then I found God as the energy
[42:29] of my own
[42:32] life not even the energy of Life the one
[42:36] supporting the energy of my life the
[42:38] Adar of my
[42:40] pran this is what is coming from gur
[42:45] gr stop making Nam God calling come on
[42:50] God you're far away you need to come
[42:52] near
[42:54] me guruji is explaining God is already
[42:57] inside
[42:59] you so we must do it without
[43:03] expectations because expectation means I
[43:06] want nams is not I
[43:10] want Nam Sim starts with Nam more I
[43:16] Surrender I
[43:19] give so namon is take not give it is the
[43:25] process of asking the guru to take me
[43:29] take the May away from me why
[43:35] cuz the me is the Rival of Nam so if
[43:41] you're doing Nam Sim with a me I am
[43:44] finding God I'm waiting for God I'm
[43:45] looking for God then there is an I am
[43:49] then you're not doing Nam siman
[43:54] because the I am is is the opposite of
[43:58] Namsan I am is the Rival of namson that
[44:02] means Nam is to defeat the I am not to
[44:05] call God get rid of the I am if I am is
[44:09] finding is finding God if I am is
[44:11] looking for God when you get rid of the
[44:14] I am then God is left God becomes
[44:20] pargat so Nam siman is the process of
[44:23] not calling God but realizing the god
[44:26] that is already sitting inside
[44:29] you and the way you do it is you don't
[44:31] have any expectations so in your Nam Ser
[44:33] don't even have the expectation I'm
[44:36] waiting for something to happen no let
[44:40] go of that as well let go of the I'm
[44:42] waiting for something to happen and I'll
[44:44] tell you how easy this
[44:46] is when you go to the beach and you lie
[44:50] in the
[44:51] Sun and you're enjoying the nice
[44:54] weather you're not saying I'm waiting
[44:56] waiting for something to
[44:58] happen you're not waiting for anything
[45:00] you're just enjoying the
[45:02] moment sunbathing I don't know if you do
[45:05] that here it's so hot certainly in
[45:07] England as soon as the sun comes out
[45:10] everybody's out in the garden t-shirt
[45:12] comes off everything is off and you're
[45:13] just enjoying the one minute of sunshine
[45:16] that you
[45:17] get but in that you're not saying I'm
[45:19] waiting for something to happen you're
[45:21] just enjoying the moment in nam Sim stop
[45:24] waiting for something to happen enjoy
[45:27] being within yourself cuz the God is
[45:29] already there don't say where is the god
[45:32] I'm looking for God cuz then there still
[45:34] I am so in nam Sim you have to get
[45:37] comfortable with the idea I'm not
[45:39] waiting for anything just sit on the
[45:42] platform sit on the train
[45:45] station and slowly slowly you will
[45:47] realize this is God not the
[45:50] mind this is
[45:53] God this itself
[45:57] this pran this life energy that which is
[46:00] behind it everything is God and the
[46:02] realization should come oh I get it this
[46:05] is actually God the very experience of
[46:07] being here the aliveness isn't you it's
[46:11] not your J that's inside you it's
[46:16] God's it's God's energy inside you the
[46:20] body is not yours you didn't make this
[46:21] body either God made this body what what
[46:26] choice did you have in this body you
[46:28] didn't make it so this body this mind
[46:32] this experience of
[46:36] self this Atma is the
[46:41] paramatma so in namson have no
[46:44] expectations let go of yourself let go
[46:47] of the one doing the Nam
[46:50] Simon because if you're even holding on
[46:53] to the small delusion that I am doing
[46:56] doing
[46:57] nams the I am is still
[46:59] there even if you hold on to thing look
[47:02] how great I am that I'm sitting here and
[47:04] doing
[47:05] nams the I am is still there the I am
[47:09] has to be let
[47:12] go you almost have to set yourself free
[47:15] so that there's no I am left all that is
[47:17] left
[47:19] is so wuru grows and becomes burget
[47:23] inside you when the Mind lets go
[47:28] so my final thing that I want to say
[47:30] about Nam Simon is
[47:33] unlike
[47:34] meditation Nam siman is not restricted
[47:38] to any pose or any position or any time
[47:42] of
[47:43] day yes there is am and it's certainly
[47:47] recommended that you do it at that time
[47:48] because the mind has a lot more free
[47:51] time if you wake up at 6:00 in the
[47:54] morning your mind is already telling you
[47:55] what you need to do for the day if you
[47:57] wake up at 3:00 in the morning you'll
[47:59] realize I don't need to think about
[48:01] those things it's quiet the outside
[48:04] world is quiet and I have plenty of time
[48:07] do your Nam Sim at 3:00 but the gurat
[48:10] recommendation is don't stop after nams
[48:14] is Art 24 hours a day so that means nams
[48:19] can be done sitting down but it should
[48:22] also be
[48:25] done
[48:27] 24 hours a day while you're standing
[48:30] while you're walking around while you're
[48:31] eating while you're talking to other
[48:33] people there has to be this
[48:35] understanding inside you that Nam is the
[48:39] Oneness everything is the Oneness God is
[48:41] eating God God is talking to God God is
[48:43] driving the car God is
[48:46] hungry God is
[48:49] tired so Guru has given us 24 hours now
[48:53] Sim but there is value in sitting and
[48:56] doing it I like to call this the
[48:58] concentrated nams when you're not having
[49:00] to think about anything else it's hard
[49:02] when you're walking around your mind can
[49:04] get distracted all the
[49:06] time it's hard to walk around and do Nam
[49:09] because then it'll be like oh there's my
[49:10] friend oh there's the person I don't
[49:13] like oh there's some bananas I need to
[49:16] pick them up on the way home you see
[49:17] your mind can get easily distracted so
[49:19] this is like a concentrated version it
[49:21] allows you to do it without too many
[49:24] other distractions